Can you imagine
a synagogue, church, or mosque without prayer services? Prayer is a central
function of communal religious life. Jewish prayer is complex, highly scripted,
and requires study and practice to truly master: when to stand or sit, what
order to say the prayers, which are said communally and which are said
privately, not to mention extensive choreography that accompanies many prayers.
While Christian prayer may not be as complex, one Baptist minister put it this
way: “Prayer is a lot more than reciting words. It requires
mastering both theory and technique.”
For all this,
traditional and spontaneous prayers boil down to four types: Thanks, Oops,
Gimme, and Wow. However we conceive God—a power outside us, the divine spark
within us, the totality of the universe—and wherever and however we offer these
prayers—in synagogue wrapped in a tallit, on the beach listening to the waves
lap up against the shore, or nestled among the trees in a pine forest—prayers
of gratitude, prayers for forgiveness, and expressions of awe come naturally, straight
from the heart. Appreciation, remorse and awe are part of our make-up. And
while seeking what we want is also a natural part of our human make-up, the Gimme
prayers are different. Who are we petitioning? What is it appropriate to ask
for? Is there a God who can or will deliver on our requests? Given our personal
beliefs concerning God, does petitionary prayer even make sense for each of us?
Where is the line drawn between self-serving requests and petitions that are
not fundamentally selfish?
As this week’s parashah, Vayigash,
opens, Joseph has successfully entrapped his brothers. Judah approaches Joseph
to plead on behalf of Benjamin, in whose saddle pack a silver goblet was
planted and subsequently discovered by Joseph’s men.
Then Judah approached
[Joseph] and said, “Please, my lord, let your servant appeal to my lord, and do
not be impatient with your servant, you who are the equal of Pharaoh. (Genesis
44:18)
Midrash Tanhuma
(Parshat Vayera 8) tells us that the term vayigash
(“he approached”) always connotes prayer. This would suggest that Judah’s
petition is expressed before Joseph, but directed to God, as well. Rabbi Dov
Baer Friedman of Miedzyrzec (1704-1772) in his commentary Or Torah tells us that Tanhuma’s observation applies here to Judah.
Friedman writes:
When you arise to pray before the blessed One, this is how you
should behave: the entire intention of your prayer should be to bring strength
to the Shekhinah [God’s divine presence]. This is the meaning of what the Sages
say [in BT Berakhot 30b]: Pray only with a serious demeanor; be mindful of the
beginning of all beginnings. Even though you are asking for something that you
need, your intention should be that whatever it is not be lacking above. Your
soul is a part of God, one of the limbs of the Shekhinah. The goal of your
prayer is that the lack be fulfilled on high. This will certainly make your
prayer acceptable, and the adversary will be unable to find blame in you… (Or Torah)
Or Torah sets the bar for petitionary prayer high:
I should align myself with God’s purpose and pray accordingly. It’s not clear
that such prayer is petitionary in the common sense of petitionary prayer.
Let’s consider Judah’s plea, which Or
Torah understands to be a prayer. Judah is worried about his father, Jacob,
who was heartbroken when he thought Joseph had been torn to shreds by wild
animals. Judah is keenly aware that if he returns home without Benjamin, when [Jacob] sees
that the boy is not with us, he will die, and your servants will send the white
head of your servant our father down to Sheol in grief (Genesis 44:31). Judah cannot bear the thought of
being responsible for his father’s pain and possible demise. His entreaty clearly serves his own purpose,
perhaps not in an entirely selfish manner, but he is motivated first and
foremost by his own self-interest.
Mahatma Gandhi
once said: “Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is
daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart
without words than words without a heart.” Judah’s words are a clear admission
of his weakness. Yet they also shape a specific request.
The Danish philosopher, Søren Kierkegaard, helps us here. He
famously wrote: “The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to
change the nature of the one who prays.” Petitionary prayer that seeks personal
growth and change fits both Gandhi’s teaching, as well as Kierkegaard’s
characterization of prayer. And it certainly fills Or Torah’s standard that our intentions should be to fulfill what
is lacking above. It removes us from the bind of selfish concern. And
regardless of how we understand God, this is prayer that is both appropriate
and can be answered.
With this in mind, I want to share with you a prayer I ran
across some time ago. Unfortunately, I do not know the source. It’s one of
those pieces that makes the rounds through internet sites and newsletters, but
no less worthwhile for its extensive travels:
Help us become
A little less impatient with those we
deem too slow;
A little less arrogance because of all we
know;
A little more humility, seeing our worth
is slight;
A little less intolerant even when we are
right.
A little more forgiving and swifter to be
kind;
A little more desirous the word of praise
to find;
A little more eager to help others to
rejoice;
A little bit more careful to speak with
gentle voice.
A little more willingness to extend a
helping hand;
A little more eagerness to listen and
understand;
A little more effort to see another’s
view;
A little more determined to live
faithfully as a Jew;
A little more resolve to do what should
be done;
And a greater understanding that, truly,
“We are one!”
Rabbi Morris Adler taught: "One who rises from prayer a
better person, that person's prayer is answered." Amen.
© Rabbi Amy
Scheinerman
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