Equality for women has progressed in
fits and starts in America, but on a global scale, the news is alternatively
uplifting and terrifying. Boko Haram, a Sunni Islamic fundamentalist sect in
Nigeria has abducted more than 500 women and children—including
the 276 school girls from Chibok last April—to abuse and sell as slaves. Human
Rights Watch reports that ISIL fighters are buying and selling ethnically
Kurdish Yazidi women and girls. An article in ISIL’s English
language recruiting magazine, Dabiq, asserts, "We will conquer your Rome,
break your crosses, and enslave your women.” Both groups justify using women and
girls as sex slaves on the basis of Islamic theology (a notion soundly rejected
as a perversion of Islam by the Muslim world at large). CNN’s Ben
Wedeman accurately characterized ISIL as living out an “apocalyptic
fantasy of rape, enslavement, and mass murder under a thin shroud of religion.” It makes the continuing gender
inequality in the United States seem trivial in comparison.[1]
It is often claimed that we find such
primitive and egregiously immoral views in the Bible. Contrast the accounts on
the front pages of America’s
newspapers, then, with the account in this week’s parashah of Rebekah. Abraham has
sent his trusted servant Eliezer to Haran to find a wife for his son, Isaac.
Eliezer encounters Rebekah at a well. She invites him home, and Eliezer showers
her with gifts of silver and gold, as well as clothing, asking her to go with
him to a place unknown and far away to marry a man she has never met.
Poet Amy Blank envisioned Rebekah a
dreamy romantic fantasizing about the man she would marry. Rebekah is so
innocent that she takes her childhood toys with her; perhaps she is young
enough to still play with them?
RebeccaI left home easily(as when the ready seed drops from the tree),Carefree—for I knew not what…I stuffed my toys into the saddle-bagbraided my hair and for that dusty journeywore my bordered gown.I chose my camel and set out, light-hearted,to enjoy adventure—scarcely a pangas tents and trees of home faded into wilderness.But this I wondered:how would it befit to ask that awesome man,Abraham’s servant, what mannerwas he to whom I was betrothed?Better to hold the question, I decided.Isaac, after all was also kinsman—one more—fabulous Abraham’s son—and I,I would be his daughter…daughter?sister?wife?Hardly a difference in my young mind.
Torah, however, tells the story of a
woman, not a girl. Rebekah, we are told, is a betulah, a woman of
marriageable age (Genesis 24:16) who is old enough and strong enough to draw
water for all of Eliezer’s
camels (Genesis 24:20). In fact, the text repeatedly calls her a na’ar (young
man), which in synagogue is read na’ara (young
woman), perhaps to underscore her strength of mind and body. There is no
deception in Eliezer’s
interchange with Rebekah, no attempt to exploit or abuse her, and there is no
coercion either. In fact, Rebekah’s family acknowledges her adulthood,
leaving the decision of whether to return with Eliezer in Rebekah’s hands:
When they got
up in the morning, [Eliezer] said, “Send me off to
my master.”
[Rebekah’s] brother and mother said, “Let
the girl stay with us another few days—ten, perhaps— afterward
she may go.”
But he said to them, “Do not delay
me, now that Adonai has cleared the way for me; send me off and let me go to my
master.”
They answered, “Let us call the
girl and see what she has to say.” So they called Rebekah and asked her, “Will
you go with this man?” And she said, “I
will go.”
Then they sent their sister Rebekah off with her nurse, with
Abraham’s slave, and with his men, bestowing this
blessing upon Rebekah: “Sister, may you become thousands of myriads…” (Genesis
24:54-60)
What is more, it is Rebekah who
chooses her husband Isaac’s
successor to the Abrahamic covenant. Isaac favors Esau, but Rebekah is
determined that Jacob is the better suited of the brothers, just as Sara saw to
it that Isaac (and not Ishmael) succeeded Jacob.
This is not to say that Judaism has
achieved equality of the sexes across the board, for certainly that is far from
the truth. The Reform, Reconstructionist, and Conservative streams have, for the
most part, achieved egalitarianism.
However, a large swath of the Jewish community continues to live as if
it is the 19th century, or for that matter the 10th century, pretending that in
the 21st century it is morally acceptable to live with the cruel inequality of
women in marriage and divorce, in positions of religious and ritual leadership,
and in matters of eidut (testimony), usually intoning the line that
often betokens a lack of insight and imagination: “that’s how we’ve always
done it.”
There are no longer any excuses. The
process of halakhah does not prevent change and it lies in human hands, as the
Babylonian Talmud boldly asserts; used properly, halakhah facilitates a fluid
change in response to moral sensibilities. We have a halakhically sound
alternative to Kiddushin[2] that
obviates the gross inequality of divorce and the problem of agunot[3] because
divorce does not require a get: Brit Ahuvim[4].
Rejecting women eidut[5] is
totally indefensible; women are equally reliable and trustworthy. The notion of
kol isha[6] is
offensive to both women (painting them as dangerous sirens) and men (painting
them as animals without self-control). Suggesting that giving women an aliyah
or inviting them to lead prayers and read Torah would be insulting to men is
absurd; the very same men see women doctors, use the services of women lawyers,
and must produce their licenses and registration for women police officers when
asked. It’s 5775.
[1] Fewer than one-fifth of Congress and one-fourth of state
legislatures are women. The United States ranks last in a list of 20
industrialized countries in a measure of government, societal, and business
support for working women; assessment examined family leave, alternative work
arrangements such as part-time employment and flex-leave. Among the 20
countries assessed, only the United States lacks paid parental leave mandated
by law. Maternity leave at full pay is offered to only 16% of female employees
in the United States. Discrimination in employment hiring, promotions, and
salary continue. On top of this is the headlong conservative political assault
on women’s rights to make decisions concern
their own bodies and reproduction.
[2] Jewish marriage, Kiddushin, is in its essence a covenant
of acquisition in which a man acquires a woman. It creates the problem of
one-sided divorce, in which, to end a marriage, a man must of his own free
will, give a woman a get, a divorce decree. He cannot be compelled.
Therefore he can also withhold a get to extort money or simply out of
vengeance. Without a get, the woman cannot remarry.
[3] An agunah is a woman whose husband refuses to give
her a get. She remains technically married and unable to marry another
man, although her husband is free to marry another woman.
[4] Brit Ahuvim, an alternative to Kiddushin, is the brain
child of Rachel Adler. It was further developed by her son and daughter-in-law,
Rabbis Amitai Adler and Julie Pelc Adler. It is fully explained and documented
at: http://therabbisadler.blogspot.com/2012/07/brit-ahuvim-20-new-standard-halachic.html.
[5] Legal witnesses in a rabbinical court, usually to testify
concerning personal status.
[6] Kol isha means “the
voice of a woman”
and refers to the
supposed impermissibility of a man hearing a woman’s voice singing because, presumably, it will excited him
sexually.
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